I gave up Facebook for 40 days between February and the end of March. It was an easy experiment. I left in the midst of a storm of “‘Thoughts and prayers’ are the new ‘Fuck You'” posts, and I didn’t look back.

I had a good 40+ days where I wasn’t wondering if that blind item an acquaintance posted was somehow about something I’d just posted, where I wasn’t idly scrolling past the same updates I’d seen several times before, and when I wasn’t getting angry about Facebook not showing me things in chronological order.

I am so ready to give that up.

I guess it would be more appropriate to say that I am giving that up.

I can’t quite decide whether I should deactivate my account, though. While I don’t have the urge to go scrolling through my feed anymore, a lot of people and potential readers are on Facebook. That’s just a fact, and one I probably shouldn’t ignore.

You might be wondering, at this point, when I get around to tying into this post’s title to the content. That might not happen, actually. I had something in my head, where another author had rejected something a while back but then showed today that they were still active with what they had proclaimed was no longer in their interest. Yeah, I’m not going there.

So for now, you won’t see me on Facebook except when these posts pop up over on my feed. It’s much nicer over here, anyway. Come hang with me here!


40 Days without Social Media

I woke up this morning and after getting fully disgusted with my Facebook feed, decided now is the time to start another item on my 40 while 40 list. Currently off limits for the next 40 days (until March 31) are:

  • Facebook
  • Messenger
  • Twitter
  • Ello
  • Minds
  • Pinterest

I also have notifications turned off for WordPress, but that’s mostly to keep me from checking the app on my phone. I would like to post more here, and this is more of a one-way conversation most days.

I don’t use Ello much, and I don’t really use Minds at all. Those I wanted to like, but it hasn’t quite worked yet.

Pinterest I usually don’t have a problem staying off of.

My big struggle is going to be Facebook. I get news there, I stay in touch with friends there, I connect with my family there.

I also get assaulted with people telling me how to live, think, and behave, and how what I do and think is stupid, juvenile, moronic, weak.

So I would love to trash my account completely, but I’m going to let myself get talked out of that one more time and take a break instead. It’s not a complete detachment from the Internet, just all the places that so obviously cause me pain.

I hope to get back to a daily writing habit here. I miss it, even though I wasn’t talking about much of any importance.

Photo by Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash

Love/Hate with Facebook

I’ve mentioned this before, but I’m going to bring it up again because I’m angry.

I have a love/hate relationship with Facebook.

I love the ability to write quick updates about what’s happening during my day and that I can keep up with friends in the same way by reading their updates.

I love keeping in touch with friends from school or areas I used to live in, getting to watch their families grow from afar.

I love that Facebook shows me what happened on this day in past years, bringing up lovely memories, and sometimes sad ones, to reflect on and find joy in.

I don’t like that Facebook won’t show me everything, even when I ask it to display my feed by the most recent posts made by friends.

I don’t like that I can’t reliably reach a Page audience who, presumably, want to see my content, without paying for the privilege.

I don’t like how some communities (that I find genuine value in 85% of the time) are run. I don’t like how I let those negative feelings impact me.

The impulsive part of me wants to delete my account there and never look back. I won’t do that, of course, but I really, really want to right now. Perhaps I need to add something to my #40while40 list, and take 40 days off of Facebook, or perhaps even all social media. I grew up without it, so I certainly could survive without it now. There are times when I need it at work, but not significantly, and not with the same irritations.

I really like that idea, the more I think about it. We’ll see how it goes.

For now, I’ve enjoyed my overnight oats with dried cranberries, and it’s time to go back to it. Have a lovely day, everyone!